How To Hypnotize Your Girlfriend

Dr. Blaz Banic studied biomedicine at the Institute of Pathophysiology in Ljubljana. His main focus now is cell stress and liver toxicology.

Covert Hypnosis Happens Every Day

Did you ever notice that when you're reading something powerfully engaging, time begins to fly by? Have you ever been so completely absorbed in a book that you hang on to every word? Often, there's a warm, cozy feeling of pleasurable excitement present that you can feel in your belly, and it's almost like all of your surroundings have disappeared.

When you're sucked into a book, you imagine in vivid, colorful detail everything you read on the page. You feel wonderful feelings as they are masterfully described by the author.

When you know how to hypnotize people, you can recreate those wonderful feelings and experiences in people around you deliberately, consistently, and on the fly!

Is It OK to Covertly Hypnotize Others?

First, it's important to know that everyone is hypnotized many times a day anyway; however, it's mostly unintentional and random.

Hypnosis, contrary to popular belief, is simply a state of higher alertness, focused attention, and responsiveness to suggestion. Despite the name, it has nothing to do with sleeping, and it can very well be carried out during a simple, everyday conversation.

So, for covert hypnosis (or conversational hypnosis) to happen, two things have to be established:

The person has to have focused attention.
The subject must respond to suggestion.

That's it. Hypnosis isn't a sinister way to control people; in fact, it's impossible to hypnotize someone into doing something they don't want to do. What you can do, however, is give someone a suggestion that they might not have thought of on their own. You can even suggest it in such a way that they think they've thought of it independently.

Imagine that you're really absorbed in a good book.

How Exactly Do You Hypnotize Someone?

First, we have to get some initial attention from our listener or reader. Second, we have to establish some sort of connection with them. Here's an example of this that you've probably experienced in everyday life.

Imagine that you are really absorbed in a conversation or a good book. You can feel a growing connection with the person you're talking to, or with the author or narrator of this particular text. As you become more and more absorbed in the content, you find yourself able to let all your surroundings go and focus completely on your reading because you believe you're about to discover something special.

You begin to cling to every word and notice how your excitement grows with every sentence because you know you're much closer to this discovery than you ever thought you'd be.

A very simple form of rapid covert hypnosis occurs when someone really wants to know something (interest, focused attention), and an authority figure begins to explain it (reduced critical faculty; heightened responsiveness to suggestion).

Engage the senses with colorful descriptions.

Engage as Many Senses as You Can, and You'll be Hypnotizing in No Time!

The more senses you can engage during a conversation, the better you'll be at secretly hypnotizing people.

You can easily engage the senses with colorful descriptions; writers of good novels do it all the time.

Put details in your stories; describe emotions and bodily sensations. Use suggestive language, but don't be so blunt as to trigger the critical faculty! If you offend or startle your subject, they will lose trust in you and no longer respond as well to your suggestions.

Covert hypnosis is very rarely done directly. Usually, a more subtle and indirect approach is required!

Introduce an idea so that your subject accepts it as their own.

Take Your Subject on an Imaginative Journey!

I invite you to imagine for a moment a place in your mind where you're super suggestible. It's a place where everything is possible. New ideas are constantly being acted out, tested, and retained if found beneficial. It's a place in your mind where you can safely experience the things you normally wouldn't.

As you allow yourself to experience these words as coming through that special place in your mind, you can begin to understand that covert hypnosis is very powerful. You really want to learn all I can teach you about it because having access to that part of the mind can prove to be very beneficial, can't it?

Now, this super-suggestible place is in everybody's mind. You just have to learn how to access it, and it's a lot easier than you think!

So, how do you bring a person from here and now and take them to the place and time you want?

We just did it! These last few paragraphs were designed to do just that. And as you can see, the possibilities are endless. The whole point is to slowly change the person's train of thought. You start where they already are, and subtly divert them towards a new train of thought until they accept it as their own.

There really isn't a super-suggestible place in someone's mind until the idea of its existence is introduced from outside. Before you read that passage about visiting the place in your mind where you're super-suggestible, you didn't have it! You still don't—but the concept has become a powerful trigger inside your mind to get you into that super-suggestible state.

Also, notice the language used to establish the idea. I didn't force it on you by saying something like: "You have a place in your mind where you're super-suggestible," and I didn't say: "Become super-suggestible now!"

This would probably be met by your resistance. However, by wording it like this: "I invite you to imagine for a moment a place in your mind where you're super-suggestible," I most probably got you to imagine such a place.

This last part reminds me of another important point.

Never Tell People that You Secretly Hypnotized Them!

Never talk about what you're doing, and never brag to people what you did. It's the dumbest rookie mistake, and everybody does it at one point (unless they have been warned about it).

Covert hypnosis isn't about mind control and open manipulation. It's about subtle influence. To do it, you need FULL COOPERATION from your listeners or readers, although this cooperation is only implied as your prospect continues to talk to you. In a way, it's an "unknowing cooperation" as opposed to "knowing cooperation" in classical hypnosis in therapy sessions or stage shows.

Perhaps a better word instead of cooperation would be "attention."

Remember: Covert hypnosis isn't what YOU do to people but is rather something that you AND your listeners or readers are doing together. You're simply guiding them, and they willingly follow. Always be grateful that your subjects allow you to lead them.

I hope you enjoyed this article. Naturally, this was just a very brief review of covert and conversational hypnosis. There are almost unlimited tools you can use to hypnotize people secretly, and as you become a master, you can begin to develop your own.

Enjoy learning about covert hypnosis!

Here's to your new persuasive powers!

Note: This information is powerful, and you will get a huge, unfair edge over others. I suggest you pursue the knowledge of covert hypnosis full-heartedly, but please use your new skills wisely and responsibly! And herein lies another clue: You have to use the techniques in the real world to become proficient.

Quick Quiz: What Did You Learn From This Article?

For each question, choose the best answer. The answer key is below.

To achieve hypnotic phenomena one has to be completely relaxed
- Yes, hypnosis is all about deep relaxation
- No, relaxation is just one of the many induction techniques
Not everybody can be hypnotized
- True. Only about 10% of the population is hypnotizable
- False. Anyone can be hypnotized using the correct technique
You need consent and permission from someone to be able to hypnotize them
- False. It's possible (and quite easy) to covertly hypnotize people during a normal conversation
- True. It's not possible to hypnotize someone without their full consent and knowing cooperation
Covert hypnosis is...
- Using subliminal messages to influence someone
- A set of conversational and behavioural techniques to effectively persuade people
- Giving someone suggestions while they sleep
- Tricking people to deeply relax and then giving them suggestions they will obey unconditionally

Answer Key

No, relaxation is just one of the many induction techniques
False. Anyone can be hypnotized using the correct technique
False. It's possible (and quite easy) to covertly hypnotize people during a normal conversation
A set of conversational and behavioural techniques to effectively persuade people

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author's knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Joe on April 13, 2020:

I will love to hypnotized my wife to do what l won't

Baby blue on October 21, 2019:

I want to hypnotize my sister will she fall for it

Jaxon Powell on June 01, 2019:

I want to find out if someone likes me. Could I hypnotize them?

I Dunno on March 04, 2019:

I want to hypnotise someone physically incase they "interfere" with me

rach on January 16, 2019:

amy and lydia were really good at hynotising me when they lost my storyboard

gene naue on December 14, 2018:

I would like to hypnotize wife, without her knowledge is that possible

Isaac on November 18, 2018:

Hypnosis makes me feel weird I would like to try it

????? on September 23, 2018:

I think people use drugs to hypnotize people. Drugs like cocaine I'm not sure but I have a hint on why that's one of the reasons its so illegal. I also think its used for others things to scare people.

Xavier on September 21, 2018:

Did you hypnotize me?!

Olapade Idowu on July 13, 2018:

It's really funny

Random on June 15, 2018:

Being deeply hypnotized without my consent or knowledge before I was ready left me in a paranoid and psychotic state for months and I probably should have been hospitalized under strict suicide watch, It was worse than 5 hits of LSD.

Forsakened on May 14, 2018:

From experience, Hypnosis against someone's knowledge is sinister. It's a form of manipulation and control.

I know good can come from but hypnosis can give people courage to do something they would not normally or never do even if it is something we wanted to do. If it goes wrong then one performing hypnosis is the responsible one. What someone wants might not be right.

Travis on April 20, 2018:

Nice try slick I know exactly what you are trying to do with this article. Half the people reading this are probably already drooling over their key boards.

Billy on December 01, 2017:

I feel like you hypnotized me with this article so I would read it all. As you were talking about the process you were using the methods as you explain them.

raui on May 29, 2017:

I am only 13 years old and it's really hard for me to learn this but I will try to know the magical trick

Karen on May 26, 2017:

If someone has made a life altering decision and continues to do so because of covert hypnosis can you help them realize this?

hypnodoctor (author) on August 17, 2016:

The easiest way to get past that is to ask questions. Some people are very self-referential and, like you, question other people's interpretations, motives, comments, facts, etc. So, when you meet such a person, ask for example, "How do you know you want X" or "You know that feeling when you just know you want X", then anchor the feeling and attach it to your product or idea instead of saying "There's a place in your mind that wants this product...". I actually noticed that the more "logical" a person is, the more he or she is reacting from emotions. Almost always we feel first and interpret our experience according to those feelings. There's actually a part of the brain that does these rationalisations extremely well. Some people are just so good at doing this that they think their feelings have no impact on them, just pure logic and rational thinking process. In reality it's seldom so. As for questioning everyone - do you ever question yourself? Did you ever consider that while it's certainly good to question things and making your own conclusions, sometimes other people have much more experience in some fields than you and it's sometimes worth to listen to their ideas instead of rejecting them outright? If you want to have more influence on such people in writing, where you can't ask questions and react to their answers, you can use a more vague language and let them interpret the experiences for themselves, while gently guiding them in your desired direction. Hope this helped a little.

Thatguy on August 16, 2016:

That paragraph didn't get me, I was told earlier in my life to question everything, and I still do, so I don't think this can work on me. It sounds kinda prideful, but even if I fully trust someone I still question their comments, facts etc. How would one get past that?

hypnodoctor (author) on March 11, 2016:

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learner on March 11, 2016:

i want to learn this plz how to learn

Tim from Los Angeles, CA on September 03, 2015:

Nice! Haha. Thanks!

Tim from Los Angeles, CA on September 02, 2015:

I need this to hypnotize the investors I deal with.

rk on April 11, 2015:

I want to learn the technics

hypnodoctor (author) on April 04, 2015:

@Umm: The word "hypnotize" has such a negative connotation to it and is extremely misunderstood. To answer your question... Yes I did use a covert hypnosis technique or two in the text and I also explained exactly how it was used later in the same text. I suggest to read it again. Thank you for your input.

Umm on April 04, 2015:

Did this guy try and hypnotize us while we read it?

hypnodoctor (author) on January 05, 2015:

@Dr Boone Doherty: Well, to tell you the truth, it's not really hard core hypnosis what we're using here. It's more like a "lighter version". We are exploiting some findings from actual hypnosis inductions, but mostly it's psychology of persuasion, NLP techniques and some other stuff. It's a really fascinating subject. Thanks for the comment!

Dr Boone Doherty from St. Louis, MO on November 23, 2014:

Hypnosis has to be the most hypnotizing word in our language right? It sounds warm and soothing, images of comfy chairs and soft spoken therapist float from the deepest corners of my memories. And I remember the gentle ticks of golden clocks as I suspended my disbelief and open my unabashed unconscious mind to the possibilities that I can do anything and.... oh dang it, I just hypnotized myself. Wait, no, my foot just fell asleep.

ubrish ali from Pakistan(Asia) on November 03, 2014:

I want to learn these techniques.

hypnodoctor (author) on October 16, 2014:

Yup, that's a typo. Good job noticing it, thanks!

CrazyCreeper1o1 on October 16, 2014:

I was falling for it, but when I read this part; "Put details in your stories, describe emotions and body sensations. Use suggestive language but don't be to blunt as to trigger the critical faculty!" my OCD kicked in when I saw "to" instead of "too" and I re-read the paragraph realizing you were doing that, but good job!

taimmor asif on May 24, 2014:

Can I meet you mr doctor of hipnotize

flame on December 19, 2013:

someone has hiptized my girl...she does a certain thing when shes alone. she has no idea she does it. completely void of it? how can she get this out of her subconious?

Jonson from guess! on December 18, 2013:

YES！good job

jody on November 12, 2013:

How can I do it?

Me on May 02, 2013:

trust me it work ;D when me and my girl friend started going out she hated fishing, i looked up on a few sites how to do convert hypnosis, and now (about 3 months later) she asks me to go fishing and enjoys it :P. You just need to get the hand of it and patiences :D

hypnodoctor (author) on September 25, 2012:

@Sona9: Nice, good job.

Sona9 on September 25, 2012:

my sister is a hypnotherapist and i m only 15 yrs yet i hve tried this trick it is awesome and it really happens...

Emmyboy from Nigeria on September 19, 2012:

Really? You almost had me!

But seriously speaking, hypnotizing people does not come off as easily as you made it sound here.

Am glad at least that you recognized that the willingness of those who are going to be hypnotized is always a serious factor to consider too not to mention the ability of the hypnotist too...

Anyway, thanks for sharing!

hypnodoctor on August 29, 2012:

@Tess: What exactly have you tried? The example here is a simple demonstration and there was a lot going on before the example that's very important for it to work and I didn't explain it here. The fact that it worked on you is evidence that it works. You just have to do it correctly. And it's far from being like saying a few sentences and having 100% control over the mind of the other person. It's a very subtle art that works if you bring all the pieces together because every little piece of the puzzle brings you closer and closer to the desired outcome. Don't worry if the first time it didn't work for you. I needed more than a year to have success with it (fortunately with the courses available now, there's a way to make the learning curve much steeper). It's only stupid if you stop exploring it after the very first attempt when it didn't work for you. It's a technique and like every other technique, it needs practise - a lot of it. Take care.

garima on May 05, 2012:

this is fun but i want to learn it. i want shortcut because it is so long . i want to know easily

LaurieK from Minneapolis, MN, USA on August 15, 2011:

Most people don't realize that we are all hypnotized many times each day. It definitely is an interesting thought that we can learn techniques to use in every day conversation that might nudge things in the directions we'd like them to go (without hurting anyone in the process, obviously).